So What Is Romance Anyway?

I have a confession to make.  I have been fascinated by the word romance every since I was 12 years old.  It started when I read my first young adult love story when I was in the 7th grade.  I Was Hooked!  Over the years the word romance to me has gone through many definitions. 

When I was twelve I thought romance was all about holding hands with your boyfriend in the hallway at school.  By the time I was 17 I thought that romance was about having a magical prom night.  By the time I was 21, I thought romance was all about going to a candlelight dinner and seeing a movie afterward. 

All of those definitions were immediately tossed away after I met and starting dating my husband.  Our relationship was unlike anything I had ever experienced before.  It opened my eyes to just how immature my thoughts were when it came to romance.  Over the years with my husband I have found that the definition of romance is:  Recognizing Opportunities and Maintaining Affections Necessary for Creating Everlasting Love.  


Recognizing Opportunities

Love is a wonderful and beautiful thing that has to be nurtured every day.  Taking the time to recognize opportunities for romance helps nurture your relationship and creates strong bonds within marriage. 

I have found that romance is not always about sex, but it's always about love.  Always actively looking for ways to r.o.m.a.n.c.e. your spouse puts you in a state of mind that allows you too see love everywhere. 

For example if the power went out due to a bad storm, one couple would see this as a great opportunity for some intimate fun.  Another couple may only see the inconveniences of the lights being out.  What couple are you and your spouse? 


Maintaining Necessary Affections

One of the most important things that helps build a happy and loving marriage is the affection that is shared between the two.  Affection makes the both of you feel loved and secure and it shows that you are both there for each other. 

Just imagine what a marriage is without the presence of affection.  Actually we don't need to imagine, we see it every day around us...its called Divorce.


Creating Ever-lasting love

How is ever-lasting love created?  That's a question that I asked myself over 19 years ago when I married my husband.   And every day I went seeking the answer to this question.  You know what I've found?  I found:

  • There is no one answer to creating everlasting love
  • Both husband and wife have to be 100% committed to the marriage journey
  • Every day you have to say, "I do" to your marriage
  • When you love God first, you love your spouse better
  • Compromise is never overrated in a marriage
  • Effective Communication makes an Effective Team
  • Before expecting change from your spouse, you must first change
  • Nagging is a marriage destroyer

There are so many other things that I have found in my journey to create an everlasting love in my marriage, but I wanted to share a few of the big ones that stick out to me. For more talk on everlasting love check out 10 Practices of Happily Married Couples and as always Keep It Hot!