Shot With an Arrow of Positivity

This morning it seemed that I may have woke up on the wrong side of the bed.  I just felt ornery and I did not really know why.  My husband on the other hand woke up refreshed and excited about the new day.  

That did not make me feel any better about the orneriness that I was feeling. 

It seemed that no matter what I said or what I did this morning, my husband managed to counter and say just the right words.   Those words made me realize what a beautiful day it was and how I should appreciate everything about it.  

"It's as if he transferred his positivity directly towards me like an arrow shot from a bow. "

His loving encouragement this morning made me look forward to a moment that I would do the same for him when he needed it.

There are so many beautiful moments in marriage but it's moments like this morning that I treasure deep within my heart.  How easily my husband could have chosen to handle my orneriness and attitude with something other than true care and understanding.  But he didn't and there goes another reason why I love my guy so much.

Marriage Tip of the Day

Today, I want to encourage being a Refresher for your spouse. 

What is a Refresher?

  My definition is someone who:

  • counters negativity with positivity 
  • focuses on and encourages the important things in life
  • sees the glass half full, not half empty

So the next time your spouse has a not so good day (morning in my case) or challenges in their life, refresh your spouse's heart with love, understanding and encouragement by focusing on the positive side of things. It's a win for everyone around!

Brela Delahoussaye

My name is Brela and I am a wife to an amazing man, mother to seven beautiful and inspiring children and thanking God every day for all of his blessings! I believe that every marriage should be a romantic one, a relationship with ardent emotional attachment unlike any other relationship you have ever had. Romance is a beautiful entity of love that installs deeper meaning and depth in your relationship with your spouse. This type of relationship requires keeping God alive and active in your daily lives, even when it’s not the popular thing to do. Being married for over 14 years and still LOVING every minute of it, my husband and I found ourselves being asked frequently by friends and family the same question. How do you stay so happy with each other? I decided to find an answer that would incorporate the aspect of our marriage and encourage others to give more in their relationships. That answer was the creation of Romance Me, a blog that takes a positive look at romance and love in marriages. Here you will find articles from the everyday life experiences of my marriage and parenthood. No textbook responses here! I believe that without romance, the love in marriages is open to fading or being forgotten. So don't wait another minute to romance you spouse! And always remember to KEEP IT HOT!