Is The Ring A Deal Breaker?
I came across a marriage engagement commercial on YouTube by Robbins Brothers that shows multiple rings and different women saying yes. We can assume that behind the ring there is a man asking his loved one to marry him. It's a really sweet commercial! Check it out below to see what I am talking about.
Anyway, it made me think about a girl that I used to know years ago and how she was asked for her hand in marriage by her boyfriend. They had been together for several years when he proposed to her. He was seriously in love with her and he wanted to spend the rest of his life with her. The only thing though was that he didn't have a ring when he asked her to marry him. And because of that she said no.
She informed him that once he had a princess cut diamond ring (worth at least 5,000 or more) she would say yes to him. So he went to a high end jeweler and he found a ring that took him about 6 months to pay off. He then set up an elaborate proposal at her job and then asked her to marry him again (with his $6,000 princess cut diamond ring in hand). This time she said yes.
My question is this, is a specific ring necessary for a couple to get married? Does it make the guy more serious or committed the bigger the diamond? Well, I don't think so and I will tell you why. When my husband asked me to marry him, now don't be too shocked by this, he did not have a ring. He stated that the moment he knew that he wanted me to be his wife he did not want to wait a single moment to ask, "Will you marry me?" Later on a ring came but I will admit I did not care about the cut of the diamond, whether it was gold, white gold, platinum etc. All I wanted was something that said that I was off the market.
My wedding ring has never held a real importance to me but my relationship with my husband has. There is no way I could have told my husband when he asked me to marry him, that I could not say yes until he got a specific ring. The look in his eyes and the emotion on his face told me all that I wanted to know, he loved me and he wanted to share the rest of his life with me. I haven't regretted one moment since that day I said, "Yes, I will marry you.". My marriage of 15 years has been the most wonderful and amazing years without an expensive ring on my hand.
3 More Reasons Why The Ring Did Not Matter To Me
1. I have seen many marriages fail with the wife wearing a huge rock on her finger.
2. The ring is not and has never been a symbol of the love my husband and I have for each other.
3. My husband and I are not a traditional type of couple
So what do you think? Is it okay to demand a particular ring from the person that wants to spend the rest of his life with you? Is the ring truly a deal-breaker? I would love to know what you think. Whatever your response, this is a judgement free zone. So please share your thoughts with me.